If you, Katie, weren’t cajoled into a “traditional” marriage (i.e., ‘until death do us part’ / grow, adapt, evolve and/or pressured into a religious ethics-based foundation of what that stands for)… then, I’d gather here you have no regrets, no second guesses, about a choice to lead the way out of what YOU also made a choice to get into.
I’ve never been a proponent of “partnership on paper” in the first place. It comes with too many preset obligations, determined by society-at-large.
What, however, I am a BIG fan of is this: sovereign-minded pursuits that are tied into collaboration and team-efforts with another “running mate” (for lack of a better description).
And that, in my experience, can ONLY come when personally-defined boundaries and values come to the table of negotiation and real / raw discussion.
My initial reply to you came from the perception that YOU, and only YOU, were at the table and/or ONLY presumed he couldn’t or wouldn’t meet your ambitious goals and ‘lead, follow or get-out-the-way’ expeditious pursuits.
Either way, the title you chose only solidified my broader observations of social norms turning from a focus on teamwork, unification and the acceptance of trade-offs in relation-SHIP… to… expendable-ness under the knife of individual impatience and self-interest.
Maybe the more accountable title, perhaps, is:
Why I Left A 5-Year Relationship To Focus On My Dreams, Explore Beyond The Boundaries of Status Quo, and To Live a Rich, Leveraged Life — FAST!